// Mixpanel implementation The Mentoring Club - Jay Allan Jethwa

I am an experienced software engineering leader who loves developing people and technology. Over the course of my career, I worked in both North America and Europe, across various industries ranging from video games to life science. I worked in startups as well as Fortune 500 and FAANG companies, and helped building and releasing successful software products with very different tech stacks - ranging from desktop software over web applications to mobile apps.

I have the conviction that technical skills are only one part of the equation for a successful career. "Soft" skills such as self-awareness, communication, resilience, or conflict management are too often overlooked. In our conversations, I would be diving deeper into these aspects with you to help you take the next steps in your career. I am a strong listener and will do my best to guide you from the sidelines, just like a sports coach would do with his players.

Over the course of my career I had the privilege to work with and learn from great Software Engineers in my capacity as an Engineering Manager. Here is what some of them have to say about me:

"Jay is one of the best managers I’ve ever encountered. He is passionate and caring. I once lead a project with very tight timelines, Jay offered me very constructive feedback to help me navigate the challenges"

- Ke Er Xiong, Software Engineer at Meta

"Working with Jay was one of the most pivotal points in my career. At a turning point for me going from an individual contributor to a Lead Engineer, I attribute much of the speed of my success to Jay. I cannot recommend Jay enough."

- Steven Sauer, Senior Software Engineer at Unity

"Whenever I looked for Jay's advice, he usually did not reply by just telling me what I should do. Instead, he inspired me to think while guiding me with questions. Jay taught me prioritization and helped me building my mindset of managing myself. I learned how to balance feature implementation, operations, and self-development in my daily business.."

- Chenmin Yao, Senior Software Engineer at Stripe

How can I help you?

My Mentoring Topics

  • Growing your career as a software engineer
  • Interviewing for software engineering roles
  • Transitioning from individual contributor to people manager
  • Managing cross-functional software engineering teams
  • Software engineering methodologies and best practices
  • Agile mindset and DevOps culture
  • Working in multi-cultured teams
  • Working abroad and in a different culture

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